All about control

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All about control

by lucreziaborgia ^Pro @ 2009-10-27 – 14:34:32

How do you relinquish all control during intimacy?

Could you... strip yourself free of your own identity?

Could you... 'decide' to be an object of pleasure, for half an hour or so?

And if you both agreed to that, would your decision, taken out of free will, not empower you further?

By deciding to be a non-you, do you articulate your control anyway?

'Don't ask questions', he said. And he threw masking tape roll on the bed. Red sheets. Lots of pillows.
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11 Comments to All about control

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- BanterNotIncluded
- 2009-10-27 @ 15:50:25
I try to use it like a feeling, an impulsive feeling. Sometimes it's right for both of us, opther times just for me... Hard one to do I guess with the wrong person! x
- - lucreziaborgia ^Pro
  - 2009-10-27 @ 19:30:00
  Oh God, it would be SO wrong with the wrong person! But wait... this is a fantasy, remember? x
  - - BanterNotIncluded
    - 2009-10-27 @ 20:55:04
    with the RIGHT person.... AWEsome x
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- 2009-10-27 @ 16:11:47
you would have to trust the other person totally, but it is very liberating. I have done it, relinquished control and lost myself in the moment as it were, but only with my lovers that I could totally trust. Then it came naturally.
- - lucreziaborgia ^Pro
  - 2009-10-27 @ 19:30:58
  Yes. I can see that. But I am creeping up, slowly, to the HOW one can lose control AND identity....
  - - deleted user (Visitor)
    - 2009-10-27 @ 21:05:58
    define identity
    - - lucreziaborgia ^Pro
      - 2009-10-29 @ 22:08:11
      The mould you use to shape reality around you.
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- miramaze
- 2009-10-27 @ 17:31:46
lol pass .. masking tape does not sound fun to me

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- brokendownangel ^Pro
- 2009-10-27 @ 17:45:27
I don't think you can relinquish your identity at all - well only insofar as role playing and being someone else, which is really great fun if they actually have to pick you up in a bar first!!! I think the choice to do so does equal participation. Hope you enjoyed the time though x
- - lucreziaborgia ^Pro
  - 2009-10-27 @ 19:32:14
  Yes, my point too. Your choice implies participation, which means you ACT, so there is control, only a different kind of control. And I have not got there yet....
  - - brokendownangel ^Pro
    - 2009-10-28 @ 08:51:50
    Well, let us know when you have that wonderful nine and a half weeks moment
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